Reciprocity

Ask me any question about video games and I guarantee you I can answer it. Okay, so that might be a slight exaggeration, but I’ve certainly improved my knowledge over the past couple of years. You see, I’m dating a walking, talking encyclopedia of video game knowledge and so it follows that his right hand woman has picked up on a thing or two.

Now ask this same impressively bright man any question about cooking and I guarantee you he can answer it. Okay, so here I go again with the exaggeration, but as I’m sure you’ve guessed, he’s improved his knowledge over the past couple of years. You see, he’s dating an incredibly talented, and beautiful, and intelligent, and..oops! Well I think you get the point.

So what do video games and fine dining have in common? Not a whole lot, but the individuals who partake in these hobbies do: they are dating. Video games never sparked a bright light in my life, just as I know Saint Agur Blue never did in his, but what is important to the individual becomes important to the other and so begins the journey of reciprocity.

Now, without an MRS before my name and without a whole load of dating experience, I realize my resume doesn’t give me much street credit, but if you’ve ever before read a Snapchat article on relationships, then it’s only fair you lend me an ear too. Showing an interest in the lives of those close to me has helped transform my relationship with them. The moment I turn my gaze away from myself, and engage in something that is important to the other is the same moment I am choosing to make room for that person in my life, even if it is in a very small way.  I could never before tell you the difference between a PS4 and an Xbox, but when I asked and I made something he cared about important to me, I felt just a little bit closer to this person I care about. And what happened when he made me a meal with Camembert? I tried my best to save him some.